Today’s Fearless Friday is going to be more of a “How to” because as I was reflecting on the question of owning the impact you have on others, I realized that most of us probably don’t really know where to start and when that’s the case, the fear of not knowing how usually stops us from even dipping our toe into doing so....
So! How do you own the impact you have on others, both positively and negatively? 🤔
Let’s begin with the positive 😁
1. Notice your automatic responses to those who give you some sort of positive reflection.
Do you cringe? Do you deflect? Do you get angry? Do you think they’re full of shit? 🧐
2. Whatever the reaction, begin to investigate it. Get curious and ask why you feel that way. Do you actually think you are not worthy of such a positive reflection? And if so, realize this is an aspect of you that is deeply disconnected from who you truly are and desperately needs to be loved! ❤️
3. Allow yourself to open up and actually feel and hear what this person is attempting to give to you (hint: love). Like sit still, and sink deep into the words and the energy behind those words, or action, or interaction that was the positive reflection towards you. Get lost in it. Feel it fully. 🙌
4. After fully allowing yourself to receive what that person was giving you, show them that you did by thanking them in your own way - a thank you, a hug, a present, etc. - to keep the connection open. 💝
5. Choose to stay open to this as a fact about yourself - that you created this experience with another person and can continue creating it simply by being yourself and being open to allowing and receiving 🤲
Now let’s dive into the dark side: the negative impact we may have on others 😣 (but don’t worry, it doesn’t mean you are a horrific person, unless you choose that story 🤷♀️ it’s actually giving you an opportunity to love yourself even more!) 💞
1. When someone reacts to you in an intensely negative way, based upon something you’ve done or said, consciously choose not to get sucked in to the strong emotions and stay present in the moment 🤔
2. Listen to what the person has to say and question them - dig deeper to find out why they are having...👇