There is a brilliant feed running over @parenthoodinmind . I read it this morning and have unable to stop thinking about it. It's about the "good enough" aspect of parenting. Yes, I've inadvertently fucked up like every parent but the post has got me thinking in a different way about how I feel when I consciously step back and make things harder for the boys so they learn something themselves. What stops me stepping back, why do I feel compelled to do things for my kids when they are perfectly capable of doing them themselves. The truth is I WANT to care for my boys, to cook for them, make them feel I am there for them, but that's all about me. Instead how we interpret care is interesting, and cultural. Is "care" doing it for them, making their bed, doing their washing, preparing breakfast or is caring for them stepping back, teaching and encouraging them to do them themselves? Should "care" be nurturing awareness in ourselves of when we step back, how we feel - perhaps that pang of them being more independent, impatience, stress, judgement? It can be uncomfortable, but where there is discomfort there is growth - when it's done with loving awareness. Thanks Julienne for the unexpected herapy session this morning! ❤️Tell me what your thoughts are on thi, do you step in? Do you notice your own feelings? What tools do you use when your child finds the learning/growth tough?
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